May 29

138 FIFM – Don’t Be Afraid of Your Special Skill

Each of us has strengths. Your strength is a God-given skill that is unique to you. But despite that, you may not be fully utilizing and embracing your gift. That skill is a part of you and has gotten you farther in life. It is high time to embrace your gift!

In this episode of The Freedom In Five Minutes Podcast, we talk about the unique gifts that have been given to us for a reason. We must have the courage to step out, help people with our God-given gifts, and discover for ourselves why we have such talents.

Overview & Episode Content

  • Go Against the Status Quo
  • My Special Skill in Action Without Even Realizing It
  • Is Your Unique Skill A Blessing or A Burden?
  • Take Advantage of Your God-Given Skills
  • Use Your Skills to Help Those Who Need It

Go Against the Status Quo

Go Against the Status Quo

As of recording, the cover of the Freedom In Five Minutes book has been completed. And then, as I am going through the editing process of the book. It is funny how I thought I was finally done, that the book just needs a few minor edits. I have never been so wrong in my life! It was then that I realized the huge amount of editing I have to do.

As I was looking through all of the chapters, “Wait what? What was I saying here? Why did I say it that way? Do I speak English?”

I realized that all the magic happens in the editing and paring down. It is not easy writing a book. But hopefully, it gets published by the time this episode comes out. And now, I might even give free copies through my I am pretty excited.

The reason why I brought up the book is that part of it was based around this particular subject that I will talk about.

Growing up, I have always been a little troublesome in the sense of not following the status quo and not doing things the way my grandmother would want me to do. I always did it in my own way. That is my special skill.

Sometimes, people will flip out at me. “You’re supposed to go to college, and finish classes that take a whole semester.”

That is what everyone does and I was pressured to do things a certain way.

My Special Skill in Action Without Even Realizing It

My Special Skill in Action Without Even Realizing It

Even at a young age, I always had the knack of finding a better way of doing things. For example, I was just going through my college courses. I did not really care too much.

Really, I thought college sucks and that there has to be a better way. At the time, online courses were just starting to become mainstream as I was going through college at 24 years old. I took a lot of time floundering in my youth. During that time, I went to community colleges where I took classes here and there. Nothing too serious, but I was having fun!

Schooling was not really a priority for me but my wife wanted me to have a degree before she married me.

And I was like, “Okay I really want to get married to you. So, I will make that happen.”

There I was, thinking how in the heck was I ever going to get a degree? I wanted to get married to her in two and a half years yet I barely had any lower-division courses.

So, I kept searching — convinced that there has to be a better way and there was! I did CLEP tests and online courses. That way, I maximized my time at home without wasting time sitting in class. And while all that was going on with the lower division classes, I went to National University, an upper-division school.

People used to tell me that online classes do not work and that I will never learn anything. Guess what? They were right.

Is Your Unique Skill a Blessing or a Burden?

Is Your Unique Skill a Blessing or a Burden?

I did not learn much in any of my classes, in high school, in any of my 20 years of schooling. You probably did not learn much as well. The whole model, in my opinion, is wrong anyway. We did not learn much.

If you are a Baby Boomer, you learned more than a Gen-X; a Gen-X learns more than a Millennial; if you are a Millennial, you learned more than a Gen-Z. The fact is, looking at the scale of learning, it curves downward. But I digress.

I was able to finish all my classes in about two years. Everyone else spent four years. The lazy way of doing things has always been my skill. I always find the most effective and efficient way of getting things done. And also, I never want to do what everyone else is doing.

Now, I used to think that it was such a bad thing. I used to think that there was something wrong with me and that I was doing things the wrong way. At times, it got me a lot of trouble. But sometimes, it saved my butt too.

Recently, one thing that I have been able to start doing is taking ownership of my special skill. I have begun to see this as a gift given to me for a specific purpose and I am going to enjoy it and flow with it.

Before I would have seen this as a burden, right now I will go with this gift and utilize it to help people. It is time to take advantage of it.

Take Advantage of Your God-Given Skills

Take Advantage of Your God-Given Skills

You need to take advantage of the God-given skills that are unique to you. Right now, we are back in Southern California and this is where I will be doing talks. All of my online content and speaking engagements are being set up and done in the most efficient and easiest way possible. I am taking advantage of and enjoying the unique gift that God gave me.

My question is, does everyone have this gift of seeing and finding the lazy yet more effective way of doing things? The answer is no. Not everybody has the skill that I have. And I could tell because I would get frustrated when people do not understand this. 

I would say, “Look, all you have to do is THIS! And you would make three times as much money! Or if you do THAT, then you would have an extra forty hours a week to enjoy and do whatever you want!”

And they would not get it, “Really? Oh, yeah. You are right.”

Then, they would not do it at all. People do not see what I see and I used to get so mad and so frustrated about the whole thing.

Use Your Skills to Help Those Who Need It

Use Your Skills to Help Those Who Need It

Each of us has strengths and weaknesses. Even today, I have friends who do not see what I see. And yet I help them anyway. At the same time, I do not see what they see and they help me just the same.

It is a beautiful thing to be able to do that for each other — help using the skills unique to you. Now, people need to accept the fact that each of us has certain gifts that nobody else has. And if only we just help each other and help only those who want to be helped, imagine how much our business can grow together.

Although, you have to remember that you can only help people who want to be helped. You can only lead; you can not save.

I will lead those people who want to be led to better things through my gifts. And at the same time, I will be led by those people who are going to help me through their gifts. Then, everybody else? I will no longer be mad at them and I will understand.

Not long ago, I had one guy who got a VSA. So, we got on the phone and he was a jerk, by the way. Three months later, he asked to have another phone call, wanting a VSA. This is a guy who has a lot of money, by the way. He gets and pays for the VSA and then goes dark in six months.

Now, this guy reaches out to my business partner and wants to be reintroduced to the VSA we assigned to him before.

For people like that, I would have gotten pissed and so mad. But now, I just laugh. Like, whatever. It will all work out in the end.


Now, why is this important? This is a vital subject because you have gifts that you are not fully utilizing and embracing. 

You have gifts that resurface over and over that have gotten you farther in life and business. It is time to start embracing those gifts and have the courage to see that they were given to you for a reason.

Discover the purpose and reason why these gifts were given to you by using your unique skills to help people. The faster that you embrace them, the faster you are able to bless others and bless yourself as well.

Resources and Links

This is Dean Soto, founder of Freedom In Five Minutes.

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